Do you have a loved one suffering from addiction. We can help. Navigating the ups and downs of early sobriety can be an absolute nightmare. This is true not only for the addict but also family members. Prana Recovery Center gets a lot of calls from family members, usually Moms, seeking services for their loved one. It is often a heartbreaking conversation.
And it is no easier on the person suffering from addiction. Prana’s Relapse Prevention Program participants say that the most challenging aspect of learning to live clean and sober is managing, and repairing, primary relationships. Deep scars are left by addiction.
Awareness of What is Happening
It is very helpful to know what lies ahead for the family and for the addict in the early recovery. There are difficult conversations and decisions in the weeks and months ahead. Family members are often unaware of how to act and feel like they are walking on eggshells. There is also much healing that needs to happen. Repairing broken trust, attempts at forgiveness, and setting appropriate boundaries can be tricky terrain to maneuver. All of this leads to continuing strain on relationships.
The addict is often filled with remorse, regret, and shame. Sometimes these twisted emotions display as anger, obstinance, or self-pity. They cannot find their voice to effectively communicate what it is they need. Silence or denial can be a form of self protection even though it is not effective.
Loved ones experience confusion, unfulfilled expectations, and a deep sense of helplessness. They may expect the addict or the alcoholic to quickly return to who he or she once was and get on with a “normal” life. Often frustration and disappointment go unspoken as tensions build.
Family Members Experiences
One Mom who has lost a son to an opiate overdose and has another child that suffers from addiction learned that if she wants to help her kids, she first must help herself. Katie puts it this way: “If you want your son or daughter to find recovery, find your own recovery.”
Family members often resist the idea that they have a problem too. Living with a loved one in addiction has created unhealthy dynamics for everyone. It is not just the addict who needs help.
Another Mom writes about three lessons she has learned from having a son addicted to opiates. Realizing that she was the last person in the world to help her son was difficult to accept and challenging to practice.
Siblings are also caught in the fray of dysfunction that living with addiction brings. They find themselves full of anger, crippled with helplessness, or trying to control the addict. Sibs also experience deep confusion, fear, and internal chaos.
Families need help too. In fact, we believe there is a much better chance of an addict or alcoholic staying sober when his or her family members are also getting help. Our Family Matters program offers weekly meetings where support, education, and relationship skill building are discussed and practiced. We also engage family members in our six pillars of wellness.
We ask our Relapse Prevention Program participants during the intake process if their family members (support network) would be willing to attend our Family Matters Program. When family members are practicing their own recovery, our Relapse Prevention Participant will have a much better chance at sustaining sobriety.
Prana Recovery Centers is so committed to families being part of the solution that we offer this weekly meeting free of charge.
Come join us some Wednesday evening. We would love to have you on the journey back to well being !